Compassion Corner Counseling

  The Bittersweetness of Endings Hello  , As we close out this month’s series on letting go, I want to take a moment to talk about the  bittersweetness of endings —because even when you  know  something was the right choice, it can still leave you feeling sad, uncertain, or unsettled. Letting go doesn’t always come with closure. Sometimes you second-guess your decision. Sometimes you deeply miss the person, job, or version of yourself that you released. And sometimes, you just wish you could hold onto the good parts without the pain.  That’s all normal. You can miss something  and  still know it was no longer right for you. You can feel sad  and  still stand by your decision. You can hold gratitude, grief, relief, and longing— all at once . A Personal Note - Letting Go After Soul Pole A few weeks ago, I wrapped up my Soul Pole Women's Empowerment workshop, and it’s been sitting heavy on my heart in that familiar bittersweet way. I had su...

  How to Follow Through with Letting Go Greetings  , Letting go is one thing— following through  is another. Whether it’s a friendship, relationship, job, or identity you’ve outgrown, the next step often involves setting boundaries and taking meaningful action. This process is rarely simple, and there’s no one-size-fits-all solution. Working with a therapist can be a powerful way to learn how to navigate these situations in a way that fits your unique life. That said, here are a few quick reminders to support you through this part of the journey: 1. Start with Honesty (with Yourself First) Before saying anything to someone else, get clear with yourself: What am I feeling? What do I need? What am I no longer willing to carry? When you’re rooted in self-awareness, it becomes easier to speak with clarity and confidence. 2. Communicate Clearly (When It’s Safe and Appropriate) You don’t owe everyone a long explanation—but offering clarity can be an act of kindness, closure, or...

  4 Tips to Cope with Letting Go Hello  , Last week, we explored what letting go really means and how it’s often tied to grief. If you’ve been noticing areas in your life where grief or misalignment are present, you’re not alone. Letting go is rarely clean or easy. It can stir up sadness, anger, fear, guilt—even relief (which can bring  its own  guilt). We might logically  know  something isn’t right for us anymore, and still feel emotionally unprepared to release it. So how do we cope with all of that? Here are a few ideas to help you move through this process with care and self-compassion: 1. Validate Your Emotions We often beat ourselves up for feeling what we feel. But emotions aren’t problems to fix—they’re messengers. Letting go can bring up many conflicting emotions, and  you’re allowed to feel all of them . You might miss someone and still know they weren’t good for you. You might feel free after setting a boundary and still grieve what it cost...

  Letting Go Isn't Easy, But It's a Part of Growth Hello  , Last month, I sent out an email about the tough decision to let go of friendships that no longer felt aligned. I was deeply moved by how many of you responded to the short survey at the end, indicating that the email was very helpful. I received several responses which showed me that this topic really resonated. It made me realize just how common this experience is.  Letting go is one of the hardest parts of being human.  And yet, we rarely talk about it or learn how to navigate it in healthy, compassionate ways. So, this month, I’m dedicating my emails to diving a little deeper into the topic of letting go. What Does It Mean to Let Go? Letting go isn’t just about “moving on.” It’s about  recognizing when someone—or something—is no longer supporting your growth, and giving yourself permission to release it. But that doesn’t mean it feels good. You might still love someone. You might care deeply. Yo...