My Consistent Pursuit of Freedom

Hello ,

Throughout this month, we’ve been exploring freedom—not just in theory, but in practice. We’ve talked about the ways we can lose our sense of self, the barriers that keep us stuck, and the small steps we can take to begin breaking free.

This week, I want to offer something a little more personal.

Because freedom isn’t just something I talk about in my work—it’s something I’ve had to fight for in my own life.

For much of my life, I didn’t fully feel free. I’ve always existed a bit outside the mold—as a biracial, disabled, polyamorous, and pansexual person, there have been layers of identity that the world hasn’t always known how to hold. Add to that a lifetime of moving from state to state, adapting, adjusting, and navigating spaces where I often felt like I had to leave parts of myself at the door just to belong… and you can start to understand why freedom, for me, hasn’t always come easily or naturally.

There’s been pressure to shrink myself, to meet other people’s expectations, to do things the “right” way. To conform. To hide the parts of me that made others uncomfortable. To prove my worth through productivity, perfectionism, or performance.

There were times I felt the need to dim myself down, keep quiet about my relationships, or soften the way I moved through the world just to avoid discomfort—mine or someone else’s. And while I’ve always resisted full conformity, there was a time when I didn’t feel fully safe or grounded in my expression.

But over the years, I’ve worked hard to come home to myself.

I began intentionally creating a life that reflects who I am—one where I don’t have to fragment or filter myself. I started my therapy practice, where I could show up with authenticity and help others do the same. I founded a nonprofit rooted in compassion, connection, and advocacy. I built a business around my art—selling bold, emotional, expressive pieces that reflect my journey and my voice. I started listening more deeply to myself and I let joy and passion take the lead, even if the path didn’t always make sense to others.

Every day, I check in with myself. I listen to my intuition. I make decisions based on what feels aligned, not what feels expected. I rest when I need to. I set boundaries to protect my energy and peace. And I try to give myself grace when I fall short—because living in alignment doesn’t mean doing it perfectly. It just means being honest with yourself and choosing to honor that honesty, one small step at a time.

This is what freedom feels like for me: living in alignment with who I truly am—and being brave enough to stay there.

So today, I invite you to reflect:

What would it look like for you to live more in alignment with your truth?
And what’s one small act of freedom you could offer yourself this week?

This is the heart of the work I share—through therapy, art, workshops, and speaking engagements—helping others reconnect with who they are and create lives that feel more expansive, authentic, connected and free.

Next week, we’ll close out this series with some thoughts on how to stay free—especially when life makes it hard.

Until then, keep listening to your inner voice. It knows the way home.

With love,