Good morning , February is often considered the month of love, but love is more than just romantic relationships. Throughout this month, we’ll be exploring love in all its forms—friendship, family, community, and self-love. But before we get into all that, let’s start with the kind of love that gets the most attention this time of year—romantic love. Romantic love can be exciting, deep, or even confusing. Sometimes, what we think is love is actually infatuation—a rush of emotions that can feel just as intense as real love but isn’t always built to last. But did you know that love literally changes our brain? Love and the Brain: Why It Can Feel Like an AddictionFalling in love isn’t just emotional—it’s biochemical. Brain scans show that romantic love activates the same regions as drug addiction, triggering: Dopamine – The feel-good chemical that creates excitement and euphoria.
Oxytocin – The bonding hormone that deepens emotional connection.
Serotonin dips – Causing obsessive thoughts and “can’t-stop-thinking-about-them” feelings. This is why new love can feel overwhelming—your brain is literally hooked on the rush! And it’s also why heartbreak can feel like withdrawal—your brain is adjusting to the loss of that chemical high. Infatuation vs. Love: Why They Feel So SimilarNot all love feels the same, and that’s okay! But infatuation and love can be easy to confuse because they both trigger intense emotions. Infatuation is fast and exhilarating—full of butterflies, longing, and an almost obsessive focus on someone. It’s fueled by novelty and can fade as quickly as it starts. Love grows over time. It’s steady, safe, and built on trust, emotional connection, and shared experiences. Neither is “bad”—they just serve different purposes. Infatuation can lead to love, but not always. The key is recognizing when a relationship is built on something real versus just an emotional high. Why Do We Mistake Infatuation for Love?It’s natural! Our brains crave connection, and when we meet someone exciting, we project hopes and fantasies onto them. This is why: 🔹 We overlook red flags in the early stages.
🔹 We idealize someone before truly knowing them.
🔹 We feel an intense emotional pull—even if it’s not healthy. Recognizing this can help us approach relationships with more clarity and intention. Reflection Questions:Have you experience infatuation disguised as love? Think about a time when you thought you were in love. Was it love, or was it infatuation? How did it change over time?
Want to Explore This More?Understanding the difference between love and infatuation can be tricky, and sometimes, our past experiences shape the way we see relationships. If you’d like to explore your own patterns in love—whether in romantic relationships, friendships, or even self-love—working with a therapist can be a helpful way to gain clarity. If you’re a current client, bring it up in session! If you’re looking for support, I’d love to help. Stay tuned for next week’s email on the science of love and how our brains are wired for connection! | 
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